"Trust in the Lord with all your heart & lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, & He will direct your paths
Proverbs 3:5-6 (NIV)
Too often I've said " My life isn't turning out nicely/ happily/ well - it must be God's fault." But I just expect Him to pull me along through life like I pull a puppy on a leash where I want it to go. God isn't like that. He gives us free will. He will direct our paths, but we have to want Him to- like a puppy who is let off the leash, but choses to follow it's owners voice. It's our choice to go on God's path or our own, but we shouldn't blame him when we end up with a muzzle full of thorns when we've explored the wrong thing.