"Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord"
Ephesians 5:22 (NIV version)
Submission is often treated as a dirty word in modern society. I was an offender of this - I told the pastor there was "no way" I was going to promise to submit OR obey Dave when we got married. I was an independent modern woman who could think & chose for herself. Ah - what a foolish, childish thing to say (I was only just 20 & had finished uni 3 weeks earlier!)
I've since learned that submission is the essence of our walk with God. That my submitting to Dave is a model of how I should submit to God & the best model of submission is how Jesus submitted to the Fathers will. We submit to please Jesus. It was only as I matured in my walk with God that I turned from hating the word, to actually doing it (I'm not going to say I actually love submitting - I have too much of an opinion for that!) .
One of the most difficult times I've had to deal with this was when Dave wanted to move down here - you see I was completely happy back up in Qld. I had lots of family support (we lived 10 doors away from my parents), had been living in that area for years, so lots of friends - you know how whenever you go to the shops you see someone you know - that was my life! I had Zai into the lovely christian school where I had attended. We had close friends who we could call on at anytime day or night. Yet Dave was asking me to consider moving away from all that - to a place where I know no one, where the only school was a state school & where we were 2 days drive from family. No way - Not fun! Well I think God had to do a lot of work in my heart to get me to really consider it properly. We drew out making the decision. I didn't want to go & told Dave that. I was happy with my life just fine. But Dave really wanted to come & he prayed a lot about it & felt it was where God wanted us. It sure was H A R D. I had to let go of one of my dreams & trust God to build a new one. So is country life all it's cut out to be.... well that's another post - but let's just say I'm happy here! I'm glad I chose to submit to Dave's will - & even though I sometimes still struggle with the decision, I also know that I've drawn much closer to God - at times he's been the only one I've had to rely on. At the ladies conference I heard "God's more concerned with HOW I live than WHERE I live!" - guess that helped a lot!